We've all seen it, perhaps.
A twenty-something-year-old bride, walking down the aisle, looking both scared and smug as she loops her arm around her father's.
She's made it this far, and she feels like she's made it.
She's half-gloating over the others who have yet to find a soul-mate, and she's also feeling horribly inadequate and insecure as an adult.
Getting married elevates one's status in society and the church, whether or not one has earned it.
She may not realize that consummating her wedding on the honeymoon necessarily mean that she knows how to love. She may not realize that becoming one with her husband in no way proves that she's a mature woman.
Young bride, there is so much more to life and love than you could ever imagine!
Read the writings of celibate nuns and monks of old, whose spiritual quests and earthly lives demonstrate something far deeper and more legitimate than marital bliss!
Eventually, she will have to learn to get over herself--her selfishness, her immaturity, her insecurity. She will realize that it is more blessed to give--validation, encouragement, time, energy, and understanding--than to receive. She will realize how much she didn't realize before she got married.
There is nothing wrong with getting married. But it has to be done with humility and grace, otherwise you leave a bad taste in everyone else's mouth.
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